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Ways to Bring More Luxury Into Your Life

“Luxury to me is not about buying expensive things; it’s about living in a way where you appreciate things.”

-Oscar De La Renta

Contrary to what most people think, wealth is not a prerequisite for luxury. In fact, when people view luxury this way, it almost always eludes them. Yes, for some, luxury might include grand estates, dinners at five-star restaurants and exotic vacations, but I much prefer to think of luxury as Oscar De La Renta does.

Getting to sleep in for an extra couple of hours on the weekend…luxury. Picking apples with my family each September…luxury. A bowl of my mother’s homemade chicken soup when I’m not feeling well…you guessed it, luxury. None of those things cost a lot of money (some don’t cost anything at all), yet my appreciation of them raises them to the level of luxury.

The way to make life luxurious, then, is to live day by day and moment by moment in a state of joy and gratitude. Seek out beauty and pleasure each and every day. It may not always be easy, but as we search for things to be grateful for even when (perhaps especially when) times are tough, we build our capacity for joy and gratitude and, consequently, we attract more luxury.

Here is a list of 27 ways to bring more luxury into your life.

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Weekly Wellegant Find: Headspace

Meditation is the hot, new thing that’s been around for 2,000 years!? Everyone seems to be talking about it, touting its (many, many) health benefits. Although I now have a regular meditation practice, I was a struggling and inconsistent meditator for years. It seemed that, as soon as I sat down to meditate, my mind quickly began running through my to-do list, feeling guilty about meditating (when I had so damn much to do!), obsessively replaying some aspect of my day, and then scolding myself for allowing my mind to wander and ruminate. Each meditation ended with me feeling disappointed in myself, like I’d somehow “failed” at meditating.

Any wonder why I had a hard time making this a regular practice??

There’s no shortage of data proving that meditation is a worthwhile pursuit, with benefits such as greater emotional wellbeing, enhanced immunity, increased mental strength and focus, improved cardiovascular function and longevity (to name just a few). But when we’re new to the practice, that kind of mental discipline can be hard. It’s far easier to focus the mind when we have something neutral to focus on. Enter…Headspace!

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“The Best Don’t Rest” and Other Dangerous Myths

While waiting for my manicure to dry at the nail salon this afternoon, my eyes fixed on a young girl having her nails done across from me. She looked to be about 13 years old and wore a bright pink shirt that said, “The Best Don’t Rest.” As I read that, I felt sadness and anger rise up in me. I wanted to call her over, sit her down and tell her how quickly that belief ( and others like it) will lead her down a dangerous path – the path of perfectionism, anxiety and overwhelm (a path I’m not unfamiliar with). I wanted to warn her that beliefs like that one will send her on the fast track to burnout, despite the fact that they’re the very messages we’re bombarded with each and every day. I wanted to ask her, “Do you know how many people in our culture suffer from depression and anxiety?!” But she wouldn’t know. Not yet.

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Trouble Saying “No”?


When you say “yes” to others, make sure you are not saying “no” to yourself.  

(Paulo Coelho)

Nothing creates more stress for more women than the habit of saying “yes” when we really want to say “no.” Many women revert to an almost automatic “yes” response, in an effort to please others and, while the desire to please others is sometimes a worthy goal, if that desire comes from a place of insecurity and the feeling that we need to prove ourselves, we can easily enter the dangerous territory known as people-pleasing.

Dr. Harriet Braiker’s book, The Disease to Please: Curing the People Pleasing Syndrome, came across my radar recently and, as a recovering people pleaser, I decided to give it a read.

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One Piece of Advice I’ve Chosen to Ignore


When I was a little girl, my favorite activity was going out into our backyard, getting onto the wooden swing set and just swinging and singing my heart out. I mean, I BELTED it out…everything from t.v. show theme songs to Top 40 hits. I spent hours out there, not giving a thought to how good my singing voice was or who heard me. I was so full of myself that nothing and nobody else even existed. I was totally authentic, full of confidence, absolutely in the moment and without a care in the world.

So, recently, when I read the following quote, it brought up some interesting feelings.

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Embracing Back to School


It’s that time of year again: Back to School. Here in the States, this time of year generally means stocking up on school supplies, shopping for fall clothes, a Costco run (or two or six!?) and one last hurrah…the Labor Day BBQ. In addition to the seemingly endless time spent in stores, most of us are forced to psychologically transition from the unscheduled, leisurely pace of summer back into the structure and busy-ness of the school year. Not an easy task, to say the least!

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Nine Principles of Wellegance


Wellness = a healthy body, a sound mind and a tranquil spirit


Elegance = simplicity; discernment; living intentionally, with character and confidence


Wellegance is a style of living which recognizes that our lives are self-created works of art. I believe that it’s every woman’s birthright to live with vitality, passion, purpose and play.

Forget the “Someday Syndrome” (procrastinating pleasure and play). Forget martyrdom, perfectionism, self-judgment, criticism, deprivation, grueling workouts, being a slave to the latest trends in fashion, looking to others for validation and, generally, living a life of struggle and overwhelm. Instead, focus on these nine principles at the heart of a Wellegant life and I promise you, the fabric of your life will change!

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